From P.A.I.N (Past Affliction Interrupting Now) to Purpose (Finding your Why)

"The pain is real" - Driven by painful memory

Unconscious belief are hundreds of Circumstances

P.A.I.N.

1. Causes

(a) Divorce

(b)Abandonment

(c) Toxic Relationships (Parent, Spouse, Siblings, Etc.)

- Words

- Abuse (Physical and Sexual)

(d) Death of a love one

2. Symptoms

(a) Hopeless

(b) Helpless

(c) Depression (Food, Shopping,

(d) Rage/Anger

(e) Fear

(f) Grief

(g) Rejection

(h) Resentment

(i) Low self esteem

(j) insecurity

(l) Shame/Guilt

3. Isolation

(a) Separation

(b) Selfishness

(c) Senuality

4. Down Hill Habits

(a) Nothing is worthwhile

(b) Losses

(c) Repairing

(d) Low Morale

(e) No Improvement

(f) Aimless

(g) Empty

(h) You are not making a difference

P.A.I.N make you average (Good Intention)

Functional with Dysfunction

Say "NO" when you are suppose to be saying "Yes"

Successful but not Significant

Live Your Purpose

What you'll Learn

Turning downhill habits into uphill habits.

Remember: Everything worthwhile is uphill.

We have ________ hopes and __________ habits

It's impossible to go uphill with downhill habits.

Nothing is more deceiving in life than good intentions

unless they're backed up with good actions.

People want a downhill ___________ with uphill results

Hope is not a strategy.

How do we climb uphill? By intentional living

Three words that describe intentional living

1. Deliberate

2. Consistent

3. Willful

How do you change your downhill habits?

1. You change your habits by changing your Thinking

2. What we think determines who we are

3. Who we are determines what we do

You are today what your thoughts have brought you

You will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.

Five types of downhill habits

1. Negative Thinking

a) If you are negative in your thinking, the habit you will develop is Procrastination

b) Turn your uphill thinking into possibility thinking

When you believe there is always an answer, you take action. You can hardly wait to take action because you know as soon as you take action, you are going to get answer.

2. I am not responsible

a) If you think, I am not responsible, the habit you will incur is making excuses

The earlier you make the decision to taking responsibility and consistently practice the

discipline, the greater the compounding effect on your life.

b) In the areas that are tough ones in which we are not disciplined, you don't make

decisions for a week or for a month. You make decisions for that day

3. Immediate Gratification

a) If you think immediate gratification, you are going to be inconsistent

b) when we are willing to wait, our uphill habit: consistency

Moment People vs. Movement People

Moment people are immediate gratification people. And movement people see

the long range vision

c) Moment people are always asking how long will this take

d) Movement people ask how far an I go

We know that the best things in life take a long time

e) Moment people think good happens easily and quickly.

f) Movement people think everything worthwhile is uphill.

g) Moment people lead with emotions.

h) Movement people lead with principles

I) Moment people are bigger on the outside than the inside Goal-oriented is the

outside.

j) Movement people are bigger on the inside than they are on the outside. Growth-

oriented is the inside.

4. Life Should Be Easy,

a) When we think that life should be easy, the habit we have in life is apathy.

b) The uphill habit that we develop is awareness

5. It's All About Me

a) When someone says, "it's all about me" the habit is selfishness.

b) We have to start thinking, it's all about other.

Everyday with Purpose - John Maxwell